定下目标努力并为之努力奋斗。在沙发上看电视不能让你高兴起来，忙碌时反而觉得更充实，工作时也可能比在家更有乐趣。其实工作和思考都能消灭坏情绪。掌握技能在短时间会让你有压力但是从长远角度会让你跟有成就感。

　　7. Be optimistic, even to the border of delusion.

　　不管何时都要乐观面对。

　　Optimism is key. Yes, pessimism softens the blow of bad news but it isn't worth it. Optimism increases resilience.People with positive illusions about their relationship are more satisfied, score higher on love and trust and have fewer problems.Happy people believe their partner is a little more awesome than they really are. Someone you think is great who also thinks you're great -- it's one of the primary things you should look for in a marriage partner.

　　乐观的心态很重要。悲观心态的确会减少坏消息带来的冲击但你不需要这样做。乐观会让你更坚强。人们如果觉得自己很会处理人际关系，那么他们会更知足、更懂得照顾人、也更少出状况。乐观的人们实践着“情人眼里出西施”，他们眼中的伴侣总是美似天仙，帅似潘安。不过在你寻找伴侣时，互相欣赏是最基本的原则。

　　8. Fundamentals are fundamental

　　基本方法还是有效的

　　Cranky? Before you blame the world, eat something. Take a nap -- it can purge negative emotions. Sleep is vital because your mood in the morning affects your mood all day.脾气火爆?在你抱怨社会前，先压压火。你可以小睡一会，你会发现负面情绪都被“睡”掉了。

　　9. Frequency beats intensity

　　发现“小确幸”

　　Lots of little good things is the path to happiness.Stop thinking about big events that might make you thrilled -- it's the little things of everyday life that make lasting improvements to our happiness. You're not going to win the lottery and it wouldn't have the impact you think it would.很多小事中包含幸福。不要去想那些让你兴奋难寐的大事件——真正打开幸福之门的都是日常生活中的小事。你不会那么幸运的中彩票，就算你真是那个幸运儿，生活也不会因此改变太多。